Vietnam Evangelical Covenant Church – Do you know what can quench the love in your home? A family relationship without leadership, service and words of praise, which turns a deep lake of love into a dry, empty basin.
Ephesians 5:25 teaches, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church.” Loving your wife isn’t just a feeling but a daily commitment and action. This article shares three ways to love your wife according to God’s Word. Scripture quotations are from the Berean Standard Bible (BSB).
I am a very busy husband with three children. Often I feel overwhelmed, but I thank God for giving me a wife who is my steady support. I have to say my wife is a superstar! She helps with my work in every way, so routinely that sometimes I take it for granted and forget to lead, care for and love her. This article is not only a reminder to husbands but to myself that I must always love my wife!
Husbands, don’t let everything around you sweep away your love for your wife. Love her in these three ways.
3 Ways to Love Your Wife According to God’s Word
1. Love her by leading her
When I lead my wife, I want to compare it to how Christ leads the church.
Jesus came into the world, met His disciples, guided and taught them everything He knew, and encouraged them to carry on His work. He opened their minds to understand the Scriptures while He was with them. In Luke’s Gospel we see this from the start to the end of His earthly ministry, from His return after being tempted in the wilderness (Luke 4:14–15) to His ascension (Luke 24:45, 50).
Jesus is the model husband every man must learn from (Revelation 19:7). Just as He leads and cares for His future Bride, Scripture shows us a husband’s duty to care for and lead his bride.
Do you study the Bible with your wife? Do you pray with her? As a family, do you spend time in devotions and worship together? Don’t wait for Sunday! Be a little church right in your own home. When you study Scripture, study it with your wife. Then create opportunities for her to use her gifts, as Jesus does for the church. Make room for her to serve the family like the woman of noble character in Proverbs 31:10–31.
2. Love her by serving her wholeheartedly
“Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13).
Day by day, serve and sacrifice for her. Die a little for your wife; put to death your own ambitions, plans and goals to seek her holiness. That is the point of Ephesians 5:25.
Look at the next verse: “to sanctify her” (Ephesians 5:26). It is wonderful that serving your wife wholeheartedly not only sanctifies you but helps her grow in holiness. It creates a sacred bond between you, not just through the things you do for her, but as a sign of your affection for her. It is the bond of unconditional love.
Find simple ways to serve and sacrifice for her. Maybe leave work a little early to pick up the kids for her, wash the dishes and clean up after dinner, or do the laundry. Ask her what she would most like you to do for her. Find out, and do it cheerfully.
3. Love her by praising her!
A loving husband delights in his wife just as Jesus delights in His church. We see this in Isaiah 62:5: “As a young man marries a maiden, so your sons will marry you; and as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so your God will rejoice over you.”
Praise her often. Proverbs 31:28 describes what a husband should do: “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also praises her.” Children learn to praise their mother when they see their father praising her. That passes on a legacy of love and praise.
Beyond praise, add romance. That includes thoughtful gifts and acts of affection. When she comes home from work, get her favorite drink, give her flowers, write a note thanking her and expressing your love.
A Deep Love That Cannot Be Quenched
I often pray this verse for my wife: “Mighty waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away. If a man were to give all the wealth of his house for love, his offer would be utterly scorned” (Song of Songs 8:7). That is the love I want to give her, an endless love that cannot be quenched. Do you know what can quench love? A relationship without leadership, service and words of praise, which turns a deep lake of love into a dry basin. Start doing these things to keep the waters of love deep in your own home!
About the Author
Joey Cochran earned his Th.M. from Dallas Theological Seminary and serves as a pastoral resident at Redeemer Fellowship in St. Charles, Illinois, under Pastor Joe Thorn. Learn more at jtcochran.com (where this article first appeared) or @joeycochran.
Loving Your Wife in Small Things Every Day
Loving your wife as Christ loved the church means being willing to sacrifice, listen and put her needs before your own. Small things like helping around the house, sincere praise and time alone together have great power.
This week, ask your wife, “What can I do to help you feel more loved?” Then listen and do it.
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Prayer
Lord, teach husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church, with sacrifice, gentleness and honor. Guard and renew love in Christian families. In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.
Article: Đài Trang
Adapted from: Christianity.com
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